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Why does it pay to be good

Why does it pay to be good

For those who don’t know I’m a pretty big comic book fan. I always await a new movie adaptation with anticipation. This year’s Wonder Woman was no exception. Although I was skeptical at first given DC’s track record with their latest movies I must say that I was pleasantly surprised. The film was pretty good, and left me hopeful for future projects. However this is not a review although the thought is tempting. But I have a reflection, that I’d like to share with all of You. A simple idea that it pays to be good in life. 

You always hear the same thing. “Good guys always finish last” or that people will treat you better when instead of being a “good girl” you’ll be the proverbial “bitch”.  The truth is that the world is not as black and white as we perceive or want it to be. Like with everything we do there needs to be a sense of balance to things. Both western and eastern philosophies preach restraint and finding the golden “middle ground”.

Such approach is best for life. Being good doesn’t mean that you must start to be a people-pleaser and be available at your friends and loved ones single request. You need to be firstly honest not only with them but with yourself as well.  Answer that simple question what you really want and instead of obliging to others or throwing a fuss try to find a middle ground, strongly stating your needs and emotions.  Forcing your will onto with hostility is a short term solution. You might feel better at first, but like with a shot of alcohol eventually the feeling will leave as soon as possible. After that You’re left with a void.

So instead of perceiving goodness as a sign of weakness build up your confidence and self-esteem to a point where anxiety and fear are just a tingling in the corner of the mind.  Practice many hypothetical conversations  in front of a mirror, with a loud and confident voice. When You’re assertive people will listen and not feel the need to dominate you with their insecurities. It’s always bad to live other people’s problems, and you have enough of your problems as it is. There is a difference in helping others and taking the weight of the world on your shoulders.  You don’t need be everyone’s Atlas.

Goodness always comes from within. Once you find it in yourself the courage to not dwell on opinions of other the idea that being good doesn’t hold any merit. Most people are not used to either giving or receiving good. So don’t be like them and show that there is a better way. In short be a good guy in world of egoists. It’s not an easy path, but it’s worth walking. Every hero, super, or otherwise learns this lesson.


Now it’s Your time!

The White Lion


The White Lion
All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost. J. R. R. Tolkien

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